Exhausted
In a normal day I have to wake up at 645 to prep breakfast at around 745 will have to clean dishes, dining table, prep for Ken’s online school. at 8 will clean the whole house that will take about an hour. In maybe 1-2 a week I have to give the dog a bath and brush-clean outside around the house; this is very exhausting due to the humidity outside and the amount of dirt, mostly by Maxx, that needs to be clean. I have to brush the tiles outside with soap and water. It is exhausting and I have to wait for it to dry or mop-dry it or else it will be muddy again . After doing this outside chore I will be very exhausted, and thirsty. My body will be drenched with sweat and my sweat, BO and max smell mixed all together. It is a tiring THANKLESS job but I have to do it.
Now the big question is, imagine upon entering the house, naturally you will be expecting an already clean house because you just finished cleaning it 40minutes ago, you saw the kids made a choco drink, ate crackers and toys and notebooks all strewn all over. There were crumbs, chocolate milk spill, water marks, a new notebook thrown on the floor and some toys. Will you still have the energy to take it in stride and quietly clean everything again or to shout at your kids for making a mess? I chose to shout ” stop eating! we just had breakfast! eating time is over.” ” who threw the notebook here?! is that where you keep your notebooks?! dont be fucking stupid guys!”
Those words and name calling are tough and has a psychological effect on the kids, their self concept and confidence will go down; why will it not? their own parent dont believe in them and called them stupid. As we all know, kids will believe in anything parents will tell them, it is an evolutionary-survival trait. Even we tell them about illogical concept like Santa Claus and Tooth Fairy they will believe it. Because Kids are wired to listen to their parents, imagine if young kids will not listen if their parents when they tell them there is a crocodile in the river or snakes are dangerous etc.. in order to survive kids are wired to listen and believe to their parents even though it is as irrational as a myth.
Saying stupid, lazy… will stick to the kids and will form as the foundation of their self concept… sadly I am a negative contributor to it.
I am more of a hurt than a help.