We celebrated the birthdays of Li and Ken which is very different because of the Pandemic. Inspite of all the limitations we still manage to celebrate it. It was nice, we celebrate it the normal way and ended it with opening the presents. In a way it is sureal because possibly it will be my last.
During the celebration I was not dwelling on that possibilty I still manage to sway that over my mind and acted my normal grumpy self. Looking back, it would have been better if I acted with joy, exuberance because it is gonna ba my last. In fact, writing about it now made me realised how short the time that is left and I am still grumpy and moody. Anyway, it was still a good birthday and they are happy with the gifts they got.
- Funny thing happened that caught me (maybe his mum too) off guard. When Ken was about to blow his candles I prodded him to make a wish. Suprisingly, he did agreed to it. He wished for something which is smart, but super awkward. I almost heard the proverbial CRICKETS for a few seconds.
When he made his wish, he wished for his parents to not say bad words and not fight anymore. It is a surprise and a shock to me because I thought they dont care about our debates and arguments (or borederline fights) because when those happens they just ignore us and still continues whatever they are doing. In a way, I thought they don’t bother to give it much thought and are not affecting them; because that is what it looks like every time.
Sadly I/we cannot give in to that beautiful wish. Mum and I hated each other so much that it is impossible to make a U turn and make things as nice as they used to. Sorry but that wish cannot be granted, it is a beautiful and smart request but the situation had sunk down so deep that it is too late to get out or escape.
It would have been perfect if things can still be nice but , we, humans cant forget. Traumatic events like fights, hate etc will be forever be part of our memory. Yes, we can stash it in and pretend all is well but one little spark of anger will set every emotional baggage and trauma back out again. Ideally, it can happen, it can be done… but reality is a different animal.